What are parents to do when their adult children decide that working 9-5 for someone else isn’t the way they want to spend the best years of their lives and the traveling thing is the right thing for them; eschewing all previous conventions and throwing caution to the wind? Especially what are parents who are currently planning their own grand adventure and wishing they had known they could have done this years ago, possibly taking the kids with them, supposed to do? (Did you follow that?)
There are lots of blogs written by young people who have made a life out of traveling and becoming world citizens. Here’s one, and here’s another one and even another one and if you are so inclined you, too, can do the Google and find more blogs that will claim to teach you how to be a travel ninja. Some travel on sailboats, some travel on land. And probably all of them had parents who had minor melt downs when they decided to take the plunge. WhhhAAATTT? You aren’t going to have some sort of ‘stable’ career in a system that will treat you like a number and steal your youth out the top of your head? Are you crazy? We ARE those parents. So instead of wringing our hands in despair because our oldest child, Claire, has embraced the traveling lifestyle rather than a boring desk job in some soul-sucking environment we decided to throw her a party instead. Complete with pony show.
This is not a new decision Claire has made. Oh no. She got the travel bug early when she studied and traveled in France. That was her first trip. Then there was the additional trip to France where she got certified in Business French and then stuck around for a few more months. She’s good with languages. Then she graduated from college and ‘real life’ settled on her like a curse. With it came the crushing realization that traveling was either for the independently wealthy or for some lucky people who found jobs that allowed their creativity to flow as they traveled. She went to work for Nordstrom as a personal shopper. It’s not as fun as it sounds. Oh, she could tell you stories…
Enter the ‘head hunter’ and a job for an insurance agency in Tacoma. Let the soul sucking begin. On a vacation for two weeks, she went to Ireland and fell in love with traveling again, coming back with many stories about people she had met, places she had seen, castles she had explored. We hope she kept notes because she is a good writer and some day she will need them. Memories fade.
Not moving up fast enough in that agency, she landed “THE JOB” in Seattle and moved from sleepy Tacoma and her little Victorian house apartment to the big city and a beautiful apartment overlooking Elliot Bay. She had ‘arrived’. She worked her ASS off. But time was passing and her best hours and years were being given over to someone else; someone for whom she was simply an employee. The good money she made wasn’t enough. She took a vacation to Scotland and came back a changed woman. That’s when the planning began. Money began being saved. Designer clothes were left on the racks at Nordstrom. Dreams began to be plotted. Then a one way ticket to Edinburgh was bought.
She let her apartment go, had a huge garage sale and sold almost everything she owned. She moved home with us, back in Tacoma, where she could save more money. She stockpiled travel ninja skills, left the job-of-death, and then took off for Scotland. That was last December. Alas, post-911 no one wants people from other countries staying too long, so she had to leave Edinburgh behind for awhile, but she already has her return ticket.
To welcome Claire home, we had a gathering at our home and invited her good friends from Seattle and beyond. It was a dandy group and made me look forward to the days when we will be able to entertain people from all walks of life in our own cockpit on Galapagos. And yes, there was a pony, too, because our family has a running joke when either of the kids are off traveling. The joke is that we bought a pony while they were gone and everyone is having fun with it except them. It’s one of those ‘inside’ jokes that mean ‘we miss you, but we’re having fun with our lives, too’. But when planning this shindig, I thought it would be brilliant to have a pony show up at the party for snuggles and photo ops. Fortunately, Andrew’s girlfriend, Jill, has ‘connections’ in the horse and pony world. And so it came to pass that a cute pony named ‘Norm’ made a grande entrance in our backyard just as the festivities were getting started. A good time was had by all and Claire was completely surprised in the best possible way!
So now that the party is over she has to replenish her ‘cruising kitty’. Just like cruisers who have to stop and replenish their bank accounts, no matter how cunning a ninja you are, traveling takes some money. So, aside from skyping the main squeeze boyfriend back in Edinburgh (who will be coming to visit us in September!) she will be spending considerable time and energy figuring out how to find temporary jobs, or creating a way to keep this gig going. She would like to find some kind of employment that would allow her to work virtually. College educated, excellent customer service skills, great people skills, National Merit Scholar; quick learner and that internalized sense of responsibility that most employers wish they could find, we take the leap of faith with her that the world will offer up a way for her to follow her heart. How can we do any less? I mean, that’s what we’ve been teaching our kids all along. So it better work! Come on Universe! We’re counting on you!
How totally fantastic . . . for her, for you, and for her to have parents that “get it.” And a pony.
We do ‘get it’, for sure.
Dang it! I hate when the photo doesn’t show up.
Cool. She made the right choice. It’s nice to see our kids not get sucked into the corporate world. I often regret the lifetime working for the man. If someone had told me when I was about 20 that I could live on a sailboat in the tropics and only work for 6 months out of the year to enjoy a good life I would have done it. I’m sure I would have been drunk most of the time and married to a hippie waitress but it would have been a stress free life I’m sure. Throw in a pony and we’re talking Nirvana.
Yes we have some regrets ourselves. Still, people do need to find a way to make some sort of living and we have no idea how to find things like temporary work or how to help her find a gig where she can do the work virtually. That’s where the leap of faith really comes in.
What a nice story. Edinburgh is wonderful and funky. Hope she figures it out. Bon chance Claire.
Thanks,Al. She loves Edinburgh. I am afraid that’s where her heart is.
Nice Pony!
Sounds like she’s got things (mostly) figured out. She picked a good place to travel to. Hopefully more locations along the way too. Plenty out there to explore.
I think she would like to see just about everywhere, Daniel. But eventually she would like her home base to be Edinburgh.
Good for her and you too! Wish I had her balls when I was her age. I so wanted to work on a cruise ship…oh well.
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The beauty and privilege of living in the USofA, the land of opportunity, is that the only people who are destine to work in “soul-sucking”, dead-end jobs are those that choose to work for someone else. Unfortunately our education system continues to promote the idea of studying hard with an idea (dream) of landing a “soul-sucking desk job” in the corporate world or as government worker vs. building something great based on your energy and imagination. Hooray to you for rejecting this and embracing the limitless possibilities of the entrepreneur and owning your own business – making jobs not taking a job.
Claire’s future is truly bright because of your insights and support.
That’s what we’re counting on! Some people are genuinely happy in the jobs they have working for others and more power to them if that’s the case. It’s scary to step outside the box, and yet, for Claire, that’s where happiness lies so she simply must do it.
I know it kinda sucks to have to replenish the kitty- a necessary evil indeed but YAY! You have your girl with you for a bit. Keep on keeping on Claire. You are writing a fantastic autobiography.
We’re glad to have her on US soil for a bit. Now her squeeze in Edinburgh has decided he’d like to come here and travel for a bit, and she, of course, will go back there and travel for a bit…yay for travel partners!
Good for Claire! Good for you! I have always taught my two sons to follow their dreams and not settle – and they are both doing it! One is a high school teacher for at-risk kids and will travel (his true passion) for three month summers; my other son is a singer/songwriter – not an easy path but he preserves and eschews 9-5 soul-sucking jobs. When we left to go cruising 9 years ago they were both a little dismayed at our leaving them but now they say we were the best role models – living our dream! The world needs more rugged individualists. From me and my family to you and yours – I applaud us all!!!!!
Thanks for the support! I will have to check out your own blog as all us ‘outside the box’ thinkers have to stick together. Just hoping the universe will open up and throw a way to make a living virtually her way, however that happens. Dismayed is how we will definitely feel when we sail off.
Gotta just do what you love….don’t really know if the money will follow but doors definitely do open when you follow your heart.
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Well that’s just a boat load of fun! I’ve never heard of this and I have to say it’s way better than the chain letters of my youth. I’ll get right on it! Thanks for being readers and for the nomination! 🙂
Safe travels to Claire! I bet we face something similar in a few years with our youngest! Good job cool parents – the pony is awesome!
We will depart for our first overnight later this week! So excited. Will probably stay close. Will keep an eye out for your blue hull!
We’ll keep our eyes open for you as well. We leave this weekend for a two week cruise. Going north. Maybe we’ll see you along the way.